Social media platforms such as Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and TikTok have become a symbol of modern times and a way for any contemporary person to connect to the world and express themselves in whatever manner they choose.
These platforms are a great way for anyone to share their world with those who choose to listen (at the account owner’s discretion) but often times the lives shared on social media are painted with rose colored glasses.
When a social media platform becomes a place that holds very few truths and hides anything that is not beautiful, it can become a stressful place instead of a positive one.
In this article we will share with you seven BIG reasons that you shouldn’t fall into social media’s web of deceit.
The comparison game
It’s easy to become a master of deceit when there are 1000’s of Apps and websites that are designed to edit and alter anyone’s images and photos.
Some social media users will even spend their precious time on Earth triple filtering their photos, photoshopping themselves into hot vacation spots, and buying followers to make their life and even their own self image into what they view as “perfect”.
If you are faking it on social media, please remember that someone could be faking it even harder. It’s easy to compare your life to someone else’ on social media without taking into consideration that they might be only sharing the good things, that they don’t have many actual real friends, or that even what they share isn’t 100% real.
Reality may become the enemy
If people only share the best moments of their life (or even goes as far as to lie) on social media, it’s easy to fall into the trap of always wanting to live in the alternate reality that social media has to offer.
Unfortunately in life everyone goes through hard times, and there isn’t a soul in the world that always looks put together. Social media can offer short-term happiness and a fictitious sense of happiness that never lasts. Those who live in the fake perfection of their social media pages sometimes get so caught up in their profiles and the profiles of others that their real life may grow unbearable.
Fake relationships become more important than real ones
Almost everyone has at least one friend who has to post everything and will spend half of their social time trying to take the perfect picture.
Unfortunately, the type of person who is always living for creating their best image won’t value real friendships as much as fake friendships, and will care more about what people think about them online and what kind of virtual image their friend creates. A person who is addicted to create the perfect profile on social media may even get upset at friends who don’t want to constantly take pictures or go places only because of the great photo opportunities. They might even base their friendships on who helps them create the best virtual image of themselves.
Too much of your time will be wasted
Social media is addictive. A recent study found that on average, adults spend 144 minutes A DAY on social media.
Typically when someone uses social media, their brain sends dopamine and they experience this moment-to-moment happiness. As soon as one exits social media, this dopamine disappears and real life sets in. There is no long-term happiness that is received from using social media.
Time is precious and few. Life goes by in the blink of an eye, and if you someone already has other responsibilities on their plate, focusing on creating a fake virtual perfection will add stress to their life.
Poor body image
The pressure to post the perfect picture can create constant scrutiny of our God-given bodies.
Social media has a way of making people feel bad about the skin that they are in. The act of editing a picture to remove what society deems as imperfections causes a desire to have the face and body that is created by editing tools.
Skin isn’t naturally flawless. Normal bodies look different than a fitness model’s body would (and even fitness models edit their photos). Yearning to naturally have the image of perfection just isn’t realistic or healthy. It’s disappointing to try to achieve the unreal image we learn to construct through filters and editing apps.
Comparing likes, comments, shares and views
I recently had a friend come over and tell how she shared a natural picture of herself and it got a bunch of likes, but not as many as her filtered picture that she took using Snapchat. She admitted that she liked the filtered picture of her more because it got more attention.
Most people feel like they HAVE to filter their photos in order to feel accepted in the social media world.
Less real human interaction
Have you ever seen a group of friends meet up together and then spend most of their time on their phone?
The more someone uses social media, the less real human interaction is actually valued. It’s easy for someone to shelter themselves within their own personal space or even right next to their friends and family and shut out the world when there are so many forms of technology in which one can use to communicate through a screen.
Using social media and other forms of technology CAN be a positive way to communicate when someone is far away or is immobile, but often times people use technology as a crutch when they become too comfortable in their own bubble. Furthermore, social media makes it easy for conversations to be misinterpreted and cyberbullying to occur. Unfortunately this new way of communicating only through technology is causing people to lose their communication skills. It also becomes easier to forget about someone’s personhood when you are talking to them through a screen. Often times online or phone customer service representatives get treated as if they aren’t human because their customers aren’t seeing their face.
Wrapping it up
Social media can be a healthy way to express someone’s individuality and share with loved ones. However, because social media CAN become addicting (and impersonal) many problems can arise from its use. Take care to make sure that you and your loved ones are using social media responsibility.